If there’s nothing that gets you going more than the adulation of your partner’s cock, cock worship might just be your thing.

What is cock worship?
It’s about an over abundance of attention and affection shown to a cock, real or otherwise. Many even have celebrations or rituals around this. Cock worship is so much more than just some epic handy or blow job. It’s about the adoration, the lavishing of focus the cock is shown and the empowerment the cock itself has.

The worship of cock is timeless, many ancient cultures revered and even erected statues in its honor. There is even some debate about the resemblance in even some modern day structures. From the ancient to the modern, the cock has long been a preoccupation.

Cock worship can incorporate so many aspects from the sensual to the spiritual. It can also be full of celebration, ceremony and ritual. The act may be a demonstration of submission or Domination or have a degradation or humiliation component to it. The only object really is to bestow so much attention and pleasure that it builds and creates a mind blowing experience for the receiver.

Here are a few tips to get you started along the way of creating your ultimate cock worshipping session,

Set the scene
Create an inviting, sensual environment. Make sure it has the right ambiance. If you planned any kind of ritual or ceromony, you’ll definitely want to make sure everything is ready before hand. Nothing like having to run and back and forth for items to kill the mood. If you’re struggling for a few ideas on some things that might help set the mood, try some of these:

-silk sheets
-blindfold
-candles
-rose petals
-massage oils
-lubes
-toys

The possibilities are endless, they’re only limited by your imagination in ways you can praise cock.

Positions and The Visual Aspect
What is the right position? The truth is there is no wrong position, it is usually preferable that at least the cock is comfortable, otherwise it may not be as enjoyable and that’s not what we’re going for here. However having the receiver lying down on their back propped up can be a comfortable position and has a great added visual aspect to it as well. There can be a real visual component to cock worship. This position allows for the one receiving the worship to watch all that attention being lavished on them.

Be Connected
Be in the moment and connect with your partner and their body. Focus on your partner, how much you want to excite them and how excited it makes you. Get into it and stay in the moment. Take in your partner’s unique taste and smell. Make eye contact, as you touch them. Be genuine in your words and excitement.

Take Your Time
This is not about trying to get your partner off, it’s about taking the time to worship every inch of them. Lick, rub, praise and appreciate them tip to bottom.

Vocalize It
Use your words. Describe how good they look and how good they feel in your hands. Tell them how excited it makes you to be in their cock’s presence. Ask them what feels good and what they want. Most of all, be real.

Incorporate Your Hands and Mouth
Use both your hands to slowly to rub and massage up and down their member. Save the rapid action for another time and instead work the cock with slow, deep massaging motions, starting at the tip and working down the shaft. Massage oils can also make this experience more pleasurable. Don’t forget to get your mouth involved in the massaging action as well. Just like the hands, focus on taking them slowly and deeply in your mouth. You can use hands and mouth in tandem when worshipping to increase the amount of attention you’re showing to their cock.

Cock worship can be erotic and intense for both involved. Just remember this one of those things that’s about the journey, not the destination.

Enjoy!

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The Prep:

1. Prevent small cuts and scratches by making sure your fingernails are trimmed and filed.
2. Make sure you have lots of lube! A water or silicone based lube will work well here.
3. Make sure your hands are washed thoroughly.
4. You may also want to consider gloves or a finger condom as well. If you go for gloves, latex free is always a good option in case of allergies.
5. For the receiver, it also helps to use the bathroom before this type of play. It can help you to relax knowing you’re super clean back there, so take a shower beforehand and give it a little extra attention. If you want more certainty, you can use an enema, but it isn’t a necessity.

Where is it and how do you find it?

The prostate is a marble size gland that is located inside the anus about 3 to 4 inches on the front wall just behind the base of the penis but before the bladder. It should feel a little different than the surrounding tissue and will swell a bit with excitement.

Now that you’re prepared and you know where to go, let’s start massaging:

Tip: Before you get started, it can help to relax your partner by warming him up with a little foreplay first.

1. Have him find a comfortable position, the most popular one is on the back.
2. Lube up. Your fingers, his perineum (you know that area between his butt and his balls)and his anus. There can never be enough lube when it comes to anal.
3. Start by massaging his perineum in a circular motion, gently putting pressure upwards into the body.
4. When your partner is ready, start with one finger and gently massage the outside of his anus. Insert your finger gently and slowly so that your partner doesn’t tense up. You don’t want to just push on in there, you want to ease it on in.
5. Gently curve your finger upwards towards the front of his body and slowly insert your finger about 3 to 4 inches until you feel the prostate. You may one to start with just an inch at a time and then gently pull back and forth, as your partner gets comfortable with sensation, especially if it’s a new experience.
6. Massage the prostate in a back and forth, come hither or circular motion. It may even feel good to apply a little pressure for a few seconds, but be careful not to apply too much. Be wary of using the tips of your fingers to prevent any scratching.
7. Keep applying the motion that feels best to your partner for an incredible orgasm they won’t soon forget.

Remember to always be gentle with your partner to prevent any internal damage and discomfort.

Tips: Don’t want to use your fingers, try a prostate massaging toy instead and you can also incorporate a handjob into the prostate massage to make for a more comfortable and exciting experience.

No partner, no problem, this technique can be self applied in conjunction with masturbation for an amazing orgasm.

The most important thing you can do is start slow, take your time, communicate and pay attention to your partner.

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Prep First: 

Make sure you have plenty of lube, water based works great here. Trim those fingernails and you may want towels or waterproof sheets because well, if it happens, you’ll want that.

Relax and Take Plenty of Time:

The importance of comfort and relaxation can not be stressed enough here, in order for this to happen the body must be completely at ease. Make sure you won’t be disturbed and have plenty of time on your hands. Time to start. Sit back and let all the tension flow from the body. 

*A hot relaxing bath or massage before you start can help get the body relaxed. A blindfold may also help the mind concentrate on the sensations going on and hydration is definitely your friend here.

Find the Magic Spot:

Find the G-spot. It is located about an inch or two inside the front wall of the vagina. Anywhere from dime to nickel size, It is the only part that isn’t smooth inside.

Now, The Moves:

Insert one finger, touching the G-spot on the inside wall. Begin stroking firmly back and forth in a “come hither” motion. Be firm, not too rough, but not too gentle either. Start with slower strokes and slowly build momentum. As the excitement builds, you can insert another well lubed finger. Continue this stroking movement for about 10-15 minutes, you should actually feel the swelling of the G-spot. 

Use those two fingers to keep the stimulation going inside, but now let the palm of your hand rest on the clitoris. Keep increasing the speed of the stroking inside and move your palm up and down to stimulate the clitoris at the same time.

Faster…faster

The Push:

The size of the g-spot is engorged now, you may feel the walls tighten around the fingers. As the climax approaches, the feeling of needing to urinate may arise. <~~~ This is good, don’t stop, this is not pee begging to burst free. Don’t fight that feeling, relax into the climax, don’t tighten, Push. Don’t strain, it should be a relaxing release. 

Once this does happen, you might be surprised how often it does. Don’t worry if it doesn’t happen for you the first time. Remember this is a fun, amazing and exciting exploration of the body, enjoy it. If you don’t have a partner, no problem, you can try this on yourself. Relax, take it slow and just let it go.

Thank you for reading

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Scenes can be both physically and emotionally demanding and intense. Aftercare is simply the care and extra consideration, both physically and emotionally, that is given after a scene. It is also important to remember that aftercare is not just for bottoms, but can be for Tops as well. A Top experiences physical and emotional exertion just like a bottom and they may also desire additional attention. 

Physical Aftercare:

Depending on the type of kinks that have been indulged in, there can be vast variety of physical after effects. The body might simply be tired and exerted, dehydrated, or it might even be bruised or the skin may be broken. This in combination with the comedown of the rush of endorphins can leave anyone feeling drained. Proper physical aftercare can ensure the physical needs of both partners are properly attended to.

This is by no means a comprehensive list, just a few things physical aftercare might include:

*Taking care of any minor medical issues, like disinfecting and bandaging any broken skin

*Something to drink (water or a beverage with electrolytes is usually a good choice) and/or eat 

*Warmer clothes or a blanket 

*A hot shower or bath

*A massage 

*Cuddling 

Emotional Aftercare: 

A scene can be an emotional roller coaster that invokes a vast array of feelings all in a short amount (in the grand scheme of things) of time. Emotional aftercare helps ensure the emotional well being of both partners are getting attention. 

These are just a few things that emotional aftercare might include:

*Discussing the scene

*Cuddling with your partner

*Spending time together 

*Scene reassurance 

*Meditation

Whether physical or emotional, aftercare comes in many forms and everyone has different needs. The only real rule of thumb when it comes to aftercare is to communicate, be open, and pay attention to the needs of your partner and yours as well.

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What is it? 

Simply put. It involves sliding a grapefruit up and down a man’s shaft while giving him a blowjob. It is said to embody the feeling of both sex and a blowjob, all at the same time.

How does it work?

First, get that grapefruit ready. The fruit should mimic a mouth or a vagina so Angel recommends a room or warmer temperature, to achieve this effect. Let the grapefruit sit and become room temperature and then run the grapefruit under warm water. Make sure to test it to make sure it’s not too hot. Using the microwave isn’t recommended due to uneven or overheating because after all, you don’t want to make your encounter hot that way (ouch). Others who have tried the technique have also suggested refrigerated may be the way to go, but Angel says that could make the experience a real miss for your partner. Make sure to roll the fruit in your hands to get it all loose and juicy. Then, cut off each end of the grapefruit at the navel. Now cut a hole or push through the center to create an opening that will accommodate his shaft (not too big, not too small). Before we get to the action, safety first. Ask your partner if they have a citrus allergy, you don’t want to discover that in the heat of the moment. Using a condom is also recommended, not just because safe sex is sexy and prevents disease and infection, but it can also prevent irritation and stinging. 

To introduce the grapefruit into the bedroom, it has often been recommended to surprise or blindfold your partner as to not put them off, but we never recommend anything that isn’t consensual. If they’ve consented to being surprised, then awesome, if not, discuss this little adventure with your partner first. A blindfold can still be fun to incorporate just make sure as always, it’s consensual.

Now to the action, get your partner hard. It can be a good idea to engage in other foreplay that isn’t in direct contact with his member to avoid any pre-fruit friction but as long he’s at attention you’re good to go. Next apply the condom and slip the fruit on. Twist the fruit up and down the shaft while giving him a blowjob simultaneously until he reaches his epic moment. Congratulations, you just grape fruited your partner. 

*Tip: Don’t skip the clean up!

This technique can be a sexy, juicy mess so you may want to have towels down or handy and shower immediately afterwards. Make sure your partner gets good and cleaned up and pat dry to avoid any irritation.

Just remember to take it slow and have a kinky good time.  

There are so many awesome ways to use and incorporate food and especially fruit into the bedroom but for this article we’re going to focus on the grapefruit. That’s right grape fruiting, pioneered by Auntie Angel, this is a blowjob technique that is said to be mind blowing. 

What is it? 

Simply put. It involves sliding a grapefruit up and down a man’s shaft while giving him a blowjob. It is said to embody the feeling of both sex and a blowjob, all at the same time.

How does it work?

First, get that grapefruit ready. The fruit should mimic a mouth or a vagina so Angel recommends a room or warmer temperature, to achieve this effect. Let the grapefruit sit and become room temperature and then run the grapefruit under warm water. Make sure to test it to make sure it’s not too hot. Using the microwave isn’t recommended due to uneven or overheating because after all, you don’t want to make your encounter hot that way (ouch). Others who have tried the technique have also suggested refrigerated may be the way to go, but Angel says that could make the experience a real miss for your partner. Make sure to roll the fruit in your hands to get it all loose and juicy. Then, cut off each end of the grapefruit at the navel. Now cut a hole or push through the center to create an opening that will accommodate his shaft (not too big, not too small). Before we get to the action, safety first. Ask your partner if they have a citrus allergy, you don’t want to discover that in the heat of the moment. Using a condom is also recommended, not just because safe sex is sexy and prevents disease and infection, but it can also prevent irritation and stinging. 

To introduce the grapefruit into the bedroom, it has often been recommended to surprise or blindfold your partner as to not put them off, but we never recommend anything that isn’t consensual. If they’ve consented to being surprised, then awesome, if not, discuss this little adventure with your partner first. A blindfold can still be fun to incorporate just make sure as always, it’s consensual.

Now to the action, get your partner hard. It can be a good idea to engage in other foreplay that isn’t in direct contact with his member to avoid any pre-fruit friction but as long he’s at attention you’re good to go. Next apply the condom and slip the fruit on. Twist the fruit up and down the shaft while giving him a blowjob simultaneously until he reaches his epic moment. Congratulations, you just grape fruited your partner. 

*Tip: Don’t skip the clean up!

This technique can be a sexy, juicy mess so you may want to have towels down or handy and shower immediately afterwards. Make sure your partner gets good and cleaned up and pat dry to avoid any irritation.

Just remember to take it slow and have a kinky good time.  

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In the world of kink, the purpose for the use of gag can be so much more far-reaching. It could be the sight, control, or even the function it provides. No matter what your purpose, it’s a big world of gags and it can be hard to know which one to choose.

Do’s

•Have non-verbal safewords

•Ensure gag is made from safe material

•Frequently check on your bottom

•Set time limits if you’re just starting out

•Have scissors for quick release in case of emergencies 

•Make sure the gag is in good condition to prevent any accidental swallowing 

•Make sure your bottom can breathe

•Clean and disinfect your gags

•Remember that some materials are porous and fluids can not be completely cleaned from those

Don’t

•Leave your bottom unattended with a gag in

•Play with a gag with a bottom that has a cold or any sinus problems

•Leave a gag in for too long, especially for those just beginning

•Use a gag on a bottom that has an upset stomach

Types

Most all gags inhibit any kind of coherent speech, though they all won’t keep your bottom silent, and drooling seems to be a pretty common side effect of the use of most types of as well.

Ball Gag- A typical ball gag is a round gag, generally made from rubber, silicone, or plastic with a strap to secure it around the bottom’s head. To use this gag, the ball is put in the mouth behind the teeth and secured by the strap around the head. A ball gag can be solid or may have small holes that make it easier for breathing, known as a wiffle ball gag. 

O-Ring- This is much like a ball gag, only instead of a ball it has on open O-shaped ring in its place. This type of gag is very breathable and allows for full access to the mouth. 

Bit – This type of gag is cylinder shaped and can be made from a variety of materials such as leather, plastic, or rubber. The gag is placed between the bottom’s teeth and is held in place by either a harness or straps. Since this gag is worn much like a bridle, some feature reigns for added fun.

Inflatable- These come in all shapes and sizes. Inflatable gags start off small and are fully adjustable to fill the bottom’s mouth. Some, like a round or penis shaped bulb, are inserted into the bottom’s mouth and pumped up to the desired size. The butterfly gag is another inflatable gag, it is very difficult to keep in because the bulb goes behind the teeth, while the wings are placed between the teeth and the lips. Most inflatable gags have adjustable straps or require the use of an O-ring to secure it. 

Over the mouth- This type of gag can include a wide variety of styles and materials. Tape, muzzles, scarfs…you get the idea, pretty much anything you put over the mouth to hinder the bottom’s ability to speak could fall into this category. The cleave is a type of over the mouth variant that includes pulling the material in between the bottom’s teeth and securing it around the head.

Forniphilic-This type of gag is used to objectify and humiliate a bottom. The gag is a mount that allows for a variety of tools to be attached. It is secured with a muzzle gag to give the bottom better control of the of the mounted tool. The attached tool, like a toilet brush, an ashtray, or a dildo, allows the bottom to perform a task or a service for the Top.

Funnel- This gag is popular for those into water sports. It is pretty much what it sounds like, a funnel that is connected to a tube that is placed in the bottom’s mouth and secured by straps to the head. This type of gag is used to force the bottom to drink a fluid or fluids of the Top’s choosing. Caution should be used to prevent choking.

Medical- Used for medical play, gags like the Whitehead or the Jennings, hold the mouth open for full access. Most all are made from stainless steel and can be ratcheting or have springs. 

This is not a comprehensive guide to gags just a short overview of some of the most important do’s and don’ts and some of the gags available. 

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Odaxelagnia: A fetish or kink for biting

Biting for the purposes of kink or fetish can be intense and animalistic, and often manifests itself when one is highly aroused. Its important to remember that arousal does not have to be exclusively sexual. Any emotion that heightens adrenaline can send one into a state of arousal and biting, in particular, this is one of my favorite expressions of it.

If you’re new to biting, don’t just bite your partner and especially not in the heat of the moment. If you want to try it out, please take it slow, do your research, and experiment with your partner before you’re in the throws of passion. You also want to be careful not to apply too much pressure. How do you know what’s too much pressure for your partner, try it out slowly and carefully. Try different ranges of mouth grip, different areas of the body and varying pressures to see what works. Inside the body there are bones, joints, ligaments, tendons, nerves, blood vessels, and muscles and if you apply too much pressure or apply it in the wrong location, you can cause lacerations and damage to these if you’re not careful. For the one on the receiving end, it’s important to pay attention to your body and communicate it with your partner. You don’t want to ignore any involuntary twitching, immediate numbness, severe pain or anything that just doesn’t feel right to you, because not letting your partner know there is a problem could lead to permanent damage. 

For those a little more experience and looking to get a little more primal, just remember there really is a limit to how much tearing (unless you’re into scarification) can be done without leaving any permanent after effects.

Sensitive Areas:

When it comes to biting there are some areas you should be more careful with and some that it may be best to avoid all together. Use caution when biting in the nether region, the upper insides of thighs, the stomach, and neck. You should avoid the spine all together and the front of the neck and wrists which contain major arteries. You should also avoid or exercise extreme caution when it comes joint areas, the face or the backs of joint areas.

**Good areas to bite: butt, arms, calves, thighs, and the back(avoiding the spine).

Aftercare:

Ok, the human mouth is just a dirty place and can be home to a wide variety of infectious bacteria. Saliva can contain at least 50 different species of bacteria. So when biting during play, make sure you clean any bitten area immediately after play with mild soap and water. If any skin is broken apply antibiotic cream and cover with bandages to make sure wounds don’t get infected.

Please remember this is not a comprehensive guide or intended to be any kind of medical advice. Before you take a bite of this kink, like with any kink play, do your research, communicate with your partner and take it slow.

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Get a Gaggle of Practice

The gag reflex, the nemesis of the deep throat. With time and practice, this foe can be conquered. First off, explore your gag reflex. With a finger or as most suggest, your toothbrush, slowly push it towards the back of your throat. You don’t want to make yourself gag, you just want to push the toothbrush to the edge of gagging. Hold it there for as long as possible without making yourself gag. Now that you know where that threshold is, you can train it. Twice a day, with your toothbrush (or finger), push towards the back of your throat and try to suppress the gag reflex. Hold it back there, without moving it in and out for a few seconds at a time. Remember to breathe through your nose while practicing and before you know it, you’ll see a difference. You’ll  be able to hold the toothbrush back there longer and your gag reflex won’t be nearly as sensitive. Now that you know where your gag reflex is and how to tame it, let’s take that practice to the next level. Try it on something a bit bigger and phallic in shape. Let me stop you right here, even though it’s one of the objects most widely depicted when you look at deep throating, I strongly advise against the use of a banana and really most phallic shaped food. Why? Quite simply, they have the potential to break off and become lodged in the throat. You can see the headline now, “Individual dies after fellatio practice goes wrong” and you don’t want to be part of it, so when practicing, stick to something more solid that won’t break off. A jelly dildo works great. Now that your gag reflex isn’t as sensitive, just like with the toothbrush, ease it towards the back of the throat.  When you feel the stoping point, you may gag but keep going and make a yawn, opening the mouth and extending the tongue flat and slightly out. The positioning of the throat and tongue are perfect when make a yawn, allowing your throat to open up. Practice breathing through your nose and just being comfortable with the feeling. Now, try slowly moving it back and forth. Stay calm, this new element might induce enough gagging at first to make you hurl, don’t worry, that’s what the practice is for. Try, try, try again. It can take time to be able to get to the point where you are comfortable and not coughing and gagging. Don’t rush, remain calm, and just keep breathing using some of these techniques below.

Learn to Breathe

It seems so easy, inhale then exhale, but with your man or a dildo inside your throat, it’s just a little different. You’ve tamed that gag reflex and have practiced keeping it in check, now let’s talk about breathing when the rhythm really gets going. First, breathing through your nose is important, but what happens if your man is blocking the airway when he’s inside? Remember deepthroating is only a part of the overall blowjob package, you don’t want to just keep his penis in your throat until you turn blue, that’s no fun for anyone. Practice taking breaths through your nose as you move your mouth up his penis. What if you need a breath while you’re down there? Don’t panic, relax and smile. Yes, make a smile, this will open up the sides of your mouth, allowing you to get a breath.

Get into position

When you’re ready to put all that practice into action, find a good position. While you can deepthroat in all types of positions, there are a few which make you feel more naturally open. One of the most popular positions is to lie flat on the back with the head off the edge of the bed. Other positions like 69 or kneeling in front of your man, can be good because it can allow you to face the penis towards the throat. However height differences can make these a little tricky. You really want to experiment and see what works best for you and for the shape of your man.

Get Wet

Making sure there’s plenty of lubrication going on is very important. After all what fun is the slip n’ slide without any water? Generally this isn’t an issue because deepthroating causes a lot of saliva. You just want to make sure you’re working up to deep throating while giving a blowjob, not trying to just start off with it. 

This is not a comprehensive guide to deepthroating, just a place to start your journey. Remember not to rush it, practice, breathe and have an amazing time.

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When it comes to begging both the verbal and the physical play an important role and one should decide what attributes interest them, and when and how they prefer it and express it to their partner.

Some Physical Signs Of Begging:

• Kneeling
• Getting into a specific/requested position 
• Facing the wall
• Lying on the floor
• Kissing the feet
• Lowered eyes
• Sad face (puppy face)
• Batting eyes 
• Crying

Some Verbal Signs Of Begging:

• Apologizing
• Crying
• Repetition of a selected word or phrase
• Admittance of wrong doing
• Asking for forgiveness
• Pleading for halt to activity

The reasons for using begging within a scene can vary widely but most generally incorporate the demonstration of control and power and some form of humiliation, whether it be to teach humility or to humiliate. 

Some reasons to use begging:

Role Play- Begging can be a great way to add drama and intensity to a scene. It can assist in the realism and help sustain a mindset between both a Top and bottom. Begging may be used in a wide variety of role play scenes like, victim/assailant, suspect/law enforcement agent, ageplay, etc.

Pleasure- This is not to say that the other reasons for begging aren’t pleasurable, but sometimes a Top may wish a bottom to beg just purely for their own enjoyment. The act of seeing one beg can be a huge turn on,  it may satisfy a Sadist side or help to reiterate a power exchange. A bottom may also derive great satisfaction from begging and can be a way to demonstrate devotion and submission. Pleading for relief or repeating phrases of adoration can be just a few ways begging is used for pleasure.

To Receive- Many Tops insist their bottoms beg to receive permission for an indulgence or to have permission to orgasm, move, touch or speak. It can be purely non-sexual and simply a reminder to the bottom about who is in control.

Punishment- Begging can be used in addition to a sexual component or in a strictly non-sexual manner for punishment. It can be incorporated in the process of a punishment or to make contrition for an infraction. Some use begging as a way to focus their submissive during punishment on why the punishment is being received. Ways to punish using begging may include: making a submissive beg for something she doesn’t like or for a continuation of a punishment. 

Begging is something that can be incorporated and practiced in so many ways and for so many purposes during a scene. The when, how and why’s of begging can be an intensely personal preference on the part of a Top or bottom and be both a verbal and physical experience.

This by no means is an end-all, be-all to begging, just a little insight on how begging might be used in a scene. It’s important to remember, because begging is based around so much personal preference, communication should be had on how one prefers to be begged or beg, when they like to be begged or beg and what they like to be begged or beg for. 

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Some can be reluctant to try anal and most of the time, it’s because they think it might be painful. Can it be? Of course, but it’s not suppose to be. If you’re interested in trying anal, making it more enjoyable or just working up to some bigger equipment, try some of these tips to get you started.

So let’s talk about prep: 

You may be concerned about the “cleanliness” factor so here’s some things you can do to make you feel more at ease. Go to the bathroom. Many find having a bowel movement and then throughly cleaning in the shower works well. If you just want to make sure there are no mistakes, you can use an anal douche.

What about the equipment:

An anal training set or anal training beads is a great first purchase. For the more advanced, there are a wide variety of anal plugs available to offer you your ideal fullness. Be cautious when going bigger, a little adjustment in numbers, can be a much bigger difference in actual diameter than you may anticipate. With an anal training kit, it generally includes plugs of graduating sizes. I recommend this in general, but especially for beginners, make sure any anal toys have a flared base or handle for not only easy removal, but also to remove the fear of lost toy trip to the ER. 

Part of not only prep, but the equipment should be the inclusion of lube and lots and lots of it. Keep in mind the material of your anal toys when selecting a lube.

Beyond the Physical Prep:

Get your mind relaxed. Tension during anal sex causes those anus muscles to tighten up and that can make anal play less pleasurable. A little foreplay or massage may also help to get you relaxed. Communication with your partner both before, during and after is essential. This can help lessen any stress by discussing what your desires and goals are and communication during and after helps your partner make those goals a reality and the experience more enjoyable.

Start Small:

Use an anal plug that is small in diameter to begin with or maybe you may not even want to start with a toy at all. A good way to begin anal training can be to start with just a finger and work your way up to using toys.

Start Slow:

Start slow with your fingers or a small plug. As the bottom gets used to the sensations and becomes more comfortable, a larger toy or more fingers can be inserted. 

**There are products like numbing creams and such available, but I wouldn’t reccomend these, you don’t want to block out what your body’s telling you.

If you’re comfortable with anal and just want to work up to bigger toys, the same steps apply. With anal stretching, just like training for the first time, use lots of lube, relax, start small and make gradual increases. Don’t get over zealous because of your comfort with anal, be patient when trying and working up to bigger toys.

This is just a starting point when it comes to anal training, do your research, take it slow, listen to your body, communicate with your partner and just have an  amazingly kinky time.

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