Compersion
First of all, what is compersion anyway? Simply put, compersion is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic joy we feel for somebody else, even when their positive experience does not involve or benefit us directly. For example, as I am writing this, my submissive/poly wife is getting ready for…
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What to Expect From a Play Party?
In laymen’s terms, a play party is usually a private event that hosted by someone in a private setting (Home, private or rented dungeon etc.) They are sometimes held after another more public event, such as a munch. *Disclaimer Please remember that there is no guarantee that there will be a party after any event,…
Emotions
It can be difficult for people to display emotion. Even when we harbor strong emotions, many of us were taught as children to suppress them, so we hold back. Some of us were taught, that because strong emotions like anger or sorrow are difficult to see or make others uncomfortable we should cover them up….
Water Sports
Water sports or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) is defined as playing with urine/pee/piss. It can be urinating on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink urine or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”…It may or may not, depending on the practitioners…
Meeting People In The Scene
“How do I meet people?” If I had a dollar for every time I read or was asked this question…Well, let’s just say, I would be writing this article on a small yacht somewhere off the Florida Keys. For some naturally charismatic, outgoing extroverts (Gives my submissive the side-eye) this is easy, people just flock naturally to…
BDSM and Sex
A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement may ring true for a lot of people, it is not true for everyone. It is important not to make the assumption. For many of us, BDSM is the richest…
Your First BDSM Scene
Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go. Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better. -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles…
Treasures
If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as some have referred to them as. Kinksters have different strategies for dealing with bruises depending on what aligns best with their lifestyle. You have options… The Boldest (and Riskiest) Choice:…
Releasing the Inner Animal
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing…
Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene
Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often…