Regina Charlisa, Author at Free the Kink

“Just. Like. That.”

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 03:56:00 +0000

she had a rough day. After being pulled in a million different directions and putting out fires that she didn’t even start, she just needed peace. After Daddy called her and listened to her venting He quietly responded, “I’ll fix it, baby. When you complete your tasks, go ahead and soak in the tub. See you soon.” He hung up after she said, “this slave appreciates Your kindness, consideration and time, Sir.” An hour later she was in the tub trying to soak her troubles away. Was that the garage door?! Daddy’s home!!! she quickly jumped out of the tub, dried off and got herself together. she laid out His outfit and slippers on the bathroom counter, began the shower water then assumed Humble Position on the bedroom floor and waited while He showered. The calm she felt in the tub was replaced by excitement and anticipation. Steam from His shower escaped into the bedroom and sent a shiver through her body. she heard the bathroom door close and then…she FELT HIM. Looming over her, surveying her. “Perfection. Up.” she stood up carefully and cast her eyes down. “Welcome home, Sir.” He hugged her from behind. And then…He sunk His teeth in her neck….HARD. she was NOT ready! Breathe!!! He bit the back of her neck, holding on to her tightly to prevent her from falling as her knees buckled. He whispered, “Told you I’d fix it, baby.” As He bit her ear, she let out a contented sigh.

Okay, Y/y’all…let’s go ahead and get the educational stuff out of the way, shall we? Odaxelagnia is a Paraphilia involving sexual arousal through biting or being bitten. Odaxelagnia is considered by many to be a mild form of Sadism. In her Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices, Dr. Brenda Lovew included a LONG entry on sexual biting and reported that “biting is used by some to sexually excite their partner. It is done on the neck, ears, lips, nipples, back, buttocks, genitals, inner thighs, etc. The pressure used depends on their partner’s pain tolerance”. She also notes that sexual biting is one of the “easiest and most accepted methods” in sexual sadism and sexual masochism. She also claims that sexual biting produces an “increased sensation while bringing some individuals who are emotionally stressed out of their physical numbness, back in touch with their bodies.”

The Kama Sutra goes so far as to name all the different kinds of sexual bites and scratches, including those focused on the breasts and nipples. Eight kinds of bites are described in the chapter ‘On Biting, and the Means to be Employed with Regard to Women of Different Countries’ These are (1) the hidden bite, (2) the swollen bite, (3) the point, (4) the line of points, (5) the coral and the jewel, (6) the line of jewels, (7) the broken cloud, and (8) the biting of the boar. this girl researches biting because it has long been one of her very favorite things!

For many of U/us there aren’t many things as sexy as being nibbled or bitten by O/our partner(s)!!! Nibbling can feel great everywhere: nipples, breasts, arms,
ears, neck, feet, and thighs to name a few.

If Y/you want to bite a little harder, remember…unless T/they can handle the pain, stick to the meaty areas! The pain might be too intense if you chomp down hard on a bony area or if you miss and only bite the sensitive top layer of skin. Aim for the mucsular, meaty parts of the body. Some enjoy gentle bites and/or nibbles on the bony body parts such as fingers, shoulder blades and knees (OMMFG YESSSSS!!!).

For some the thighs are too sensitive and the genitals are an absolute NO because both of those areas are too sensitive and the pain just doesn’t transfer to pleasure for T/them; it just freaking hurts! For O/others, those areas are definitely on the menu!

One of the sexiest moves is when Y/you bite T/them on the back of the neck. This is what lions and other large mammals do to their mates in the wild to hold them still as they mate and there is nothing so sexy and empowering as feeling Y/your partner go weak and limp in Y/your arms, submitting with a sigh, growl or purr as Y/you sink your teeth perfectly into T/their upper shoulder/neck, completely making them Y/yours.

Biting is something that both sides of the slash enjoy. A good reward/incentive for a submissive is being able to sink their teeth into their Dom/mes! For Dom/mes it can serve as a reminder of who Their submissives belong to and who’s in control. It can also be used to put a submissive in the right headspace QUICKLY.

Biting can be as Primal and/or Sensual as Y/you choose it to be. A well timed, well placed bite can transform any moment or scene! Do some Research as well as talk about it with Y/your partner(s) and learn T/their bodies to avoid serious injuries. Once Y/you are confident and comfortable, dive in TEETH FIRST, Y/y’all!

~His Duchess

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“Wait…WHAT?!”

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 03:49:00 +0000

“I suppose you think it’s acceptable to do a sloppy job. Time to teach you another lesson.” The words stung like a Dragon’s Tail. she knew the next few hours will suck. “Apologies, Sir.” As her heart raced, she braced herself for the consequences of her actions. He replied, barely above a whisper, “Noted.” As her eyes welled up with tears, she realized that He had hung up on her. Dammit! He is PISSED! Focus! Inventory Time!
she went over EVERY minute of her day; her Tasks, her conversations, her appearance, all of it. If she botched a Task that would be bad. VERY bad. Was she rude to someone? Did she embarrass Him in some way? Was her attitude the issue? she knew she had to fix it, whatever it was. she texted Him…no response. He’s probably too angry to deal with her right now. Twenty minutes later her phone chimed. “Punishment Setup, 7 p.m. SHARP. Get this RIGHT.” Omg it’s BAD. she spent the day hovering between terrified and focused. Terrified about punishment and focused on repentance. As the day went on she texted as required; but the cold brief tone of His responses made her blood run cold. she was ahead of schedule. she was anxious and unsure about how severe the punishment would be. she knew that He doesn’t use that word lightly; she had fucked up and would have to pay. she considered asking her sister in slavery for guidance and support. she remained engaged with the folks in her orbit but her mind was elsewhere. At 5 p.m. she began to prepare. she carefully laid out the Punishment Setup. she made sure everything was neat, clean, organized and ready. she stared at His favorite blade as the tears formed again. Time to prepare her body now. As the hot water washed over her she felt a brief moment of peace. she rested her head against the shower wall. “Six p.m.” That damn talking clock disturbed her Zen. she conditioned her skin and assumed Naked Humble in the foyer by the front door. The floor was cold and seemed even colder as she could hear the ticking of the clock on the wall. Just breathe. You brought this on yourself. Accept it, learn from it and keep moving forward. The positive self talk was drowned out by the pounding of her heart. she heard the truck pull into the garage. her heart sank. The tears rolled. After the door closed, she focused on His footsteps moving towards her. “Room. NOW.” she crawled, slowly, carefully, towards the room. “Blindfold. Put it on.” she took a quick glance around. He was standing by the tool table, holding His favorite blade in His hand, scowling. she bent over the bench, blindfold on, and braced herself. “I LOVE this blade.” He said. His heavy steps moved towards her. “Let’s talk about how you ended up like this today. You have Tasks. Tasks that must be executed with precision and pride. Yet you dropped the ball on one. 68 words when the requirement is 75 is unacceptable. Understand me?” Dammit. He caught that. she assumed that He was in a rush and had simply let it slide. WRONG. “You don’t know me as well as you thought” He said, as if hearing her thoughts. “THAT is today’s lesson.” Brace yourself for the blade! she tensed then relaxed her body to prepare for the sharpness on her skin. And then.. she felt it. What was that? A feather!!! Not the blade! Wait…what?! What happened to the blade? THIS. IS. TRUE. TORTURE. she wasn’t prepared for this sensation at all. Goosebumps rising. Heart racing. Cheeks flushed. Excitement coursing through her body. “Told you…you don’t know me as well as you thought you did.” Then the lesson continued.

And THAT was one of many almighty Mind Fuks, y’all. Agony, ecstasy or both. A Mind Fuk is when a Top/Dominant messes with a submissive’s mind by allowing the submissive to believe something is going to or will happen. Then the Top/Dominant “flips the script” when the activity or scene either does not occur at all or doesn’t play out the way the submissive expects it to. Hence the name “Mind Fuk. It begins with a thought; such as when a submissive messes up there will be consequences. The submissive’s imagination and guilty conscience are the engine that gets the train moving. NOTE: Most of us have experienced something similar before W/we knew it was an actual kink. Like anything with BDSM, Mind Fuks can play out in different ways with different people.

Mind Fuks are only successful when there’s a certain amount of trust and routine behavior established. Tops/Dominants who are consistent in their behavior and expectations teach their submissives they can expect a specific reaction/response when they say or do something. A submissive’s active imagination also makes Mind Fuks powerful and effective. this girl hasn’t met a submissive yet whose mind shuts down easily or stops spinning. An image of the Energizer Bunny comes to mind lol. Some of the most effective Mind Fuks require very little effort on the part of the Dominants; simply a willingness to allow a submissive to continue on their own train of thought. The appeal of O/our Thing for many submissives is the possibility of a quieted mind when their Top/Dominant takes over. The duration of a Mind Fuk varies depending on the specific situation, the P/people involved and how effective it is. Mind Fuks are quite common in Dynamics with sadists and masochists. As with EVERYTHING in O/our Thing, Mind Fuks are not for E/everyone and E/everyone must be able to manage the emotions involved with little or no issues regarding trust, self esteem, self confidence, etc. Mind Fuks in any capacity are Hard Limits for many because of the things listed above and any psychological trauma the submissive and/or Dominant has been through. Whether or not Mind Fuks are possible is definitely something that should be addressed during Vetting. Be cautious with Mind Fuks. They can be devastating if not done properly. The more Y/you trust and care for each O/other, the better the outcome. Apply ALL of The Pillars, y’all. Research and communicate always. The FLYGOD always does a “Debriefing” with check-ins following a Mind Fuk to ensure that all is well. He is attentive and observant; more so than with other scenes. And that gives this girl peace of mind after a Mind Fu*k. Until next time, y’all.

~His Duchess

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Reasons

Regina Charlisa — Thu, 28 Oct 2021 03:46:00 +0000

“FOCUS, woman!” she was supposed to be reviewing a Lesson Plan. But instead…she was thinking of HIM. He was so attentive and accessible. she can think of one way to show her affection, admiration and appreciation if He will be gracious enough to allow it. she is always eager, yet patient…inhaling His scent, so intoxicating. His presence looming over her, making her feel safe. Ah, yes….she will show Him what He means to her…hopefully she will get another opportunity. she will not leave out any details; He’ll feel like a God among men.

When it comes to demonstrating affection and admiration, who truly enjoys it more? The giver, or the receiver?

this girl is a pleaser by nature. There are many like her. Yes, the act is amazing from start to finish…the scents, the sight, the sounds, the taste, the sensations…ALL of it. There are a lot of people who would gladly rather give than receive. And the question is WHY? For this girl it is all about Worship. Worship is defined as: The feeling or expression of reverence and adoration. For clarification, and to put this into perspective, reverence is a feeling of deep respect, and adoration is a feeling of profound love and admiration.

Worship is the physical expression of deep respect, profound love and admiration. Dominants can worship submissives as well. As a matter of fact, some will even teach submissives how to Worship. So everyone wins, right?

One of the more simplistic yet sensual ways to ease into Worship is bathing. Bubbles, a washcloth and a person willing to be worshipped is all Y/you need.Those who regularly use bathing as a form of worship feel the preparation for the bath is as much a part of the worship as the bathing itself. Water temperature, texture of the washcloth and towels, everything to be used needs to convey worship and reverence for T/their body. Bath salts, oils are candles are delicious additions. Gently guide T/them into the tub, letting the ripple of warm water wash over T/their body as T/they slide in. Begin with a caressing wash, using Y/your hands or the washcloth, letting the water pour over T/their body. Let it wash over the shoulders and over the chest. Pamper, caress and care for T/them. Y/your strokes and caresses should cover every inch of T/them.

If getting in the shower or tub doesn’t do it, begin with a simple erotic massage. What makes this different from Y/your usual scrub and rub is the time Y/you take to appreciate and worship every inch of T/their body. Be generous with the duration of the massage and the amount of oil. Let Y/your hand linger EVERYWHERE Y/you touch T/them. And it doesn’t have to stop with Y/your hands; appreciate T/them with Y/your mouth as well!

Worship is about the One W/we worship. If W/we happen to be aroused during worship, that is a bonus but not a requirement. Worship is not about how this girl feels once she is done; it’s about how The FLYGOD feels once she is done.

So…why does this girl worship The FLYGOD?

First, it comes naturally. When someone is influential in O/our life and is doing things for U/us, it’s natural to want to compliment T/them. Worship is a way of complimenting The FLYGOD for the things He does for this girl and how He makes her feel. Worship costs this girl nothing, but means everything. By opening herself up to worshipping The FLYGOD, this girl is giving herself to Him, the One who cares for her and accepts her. The One who knows this girl most intimately. The One who gives her the outlet to be exactly who she is without judgment. The One she trusts completely.

Second reason is Love. It’s that simple. When Y/you love someone, Y/you want to show T/them in as many ways as possible. The physical expression of this is just as important as the words. While sitting at The FLYGOD’S’ feet, this girl may speak the words, she may show the feelings and He will understand and accept both graciously. But when this girl is graciously allowed to put her hands and mouth on The FLYGOD and pour into Him the love that she feels…that will speak to Him on His natural level of being. It will touch The FLYGOD’S subconscious and His heart.

The third reason for worship is Gratitude. It is easy to take someone for granted. By worshiping The FLYGOD, this girl is thanking Him for everything He does for her. To convey how honored she feels to be His.

Lastly, W/we worship because W/we need to worship. When W/we put worship into O/our daily routine, O/our dynamic could grow stronger and become more intimate. And this will make U/us want to worship more. Why? Because W/we will feel overjoyed realizing just how awesome the dynamic really is. If this girl doesn’t take the time to demonstrate how great The FLYGOD is to her, she misses an opportunity. The more she worships The FLYGOD for His love and Dominance, the more she will experience His love and Dominance. It could be the same or something different for Y/your dynamic(s). Worship is yet another way to learn about each O/other.

A final thought…the purpose of Worship is not an orgasm, though it can be a GLORIOUS bonus. Go all in. The intimacy and honesty achieved through Worship is unparalleled and absolutely amazing.

~His Duchess

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“(C)hallenging (B)ut (T)hrilling”

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 20 Oct 2021 03:33:00 +0000

the toy.
“You disgust me.” The words cut through the air and straight into his heart. He fell to his knees on the cold bathroom floor. “Forgive this toy, please, Regina.” He held his head down. “Stand up. You aren’t worthy of kneeling at my feet. Hands above your head, soldier.” As he did as he was told, she reached for him and he flinched. “NOW you’ve fucked up. Hands BEHIND your head now.” She stepped toward him. He changed his breathing and braced himself. God, she smelled good. Her lips quivered then formed a grin. The rise and fall of her breasts was hypnotic. Snap out of it! He said to himself. he tried to mentally and physically brace himself for whatever She did next. And then, She broke the silence with the words, “Look at me. Today’s Lesson is…be careful what you wish for, toy.” It happened before he had a chance to even register it. She had his cock in Her hand, firmly, then pulled on it so slowly that he wasn’t sure what he felt. But then came the RUSH. Pain. Immediately followed by – bliss? Wtf! But as his toes curled and relaxed, he was yearning for Her to do it again. Say something! NOW! “Please teach this toy, Regina.” And when She did it again…wow.

HER.
“he thinks he’s slick; begging for forgiveness won’t spare him!” She thought to herself. She had done her research. She made sure that the toy had done his as well. The little hints and hiccups all led to this moment. As the toy dropped to his knees, She took the opportunity to survey the setup. Scissors, gauze, ice in bucket, knee hi stockings, leather gloves…the stage was meticulously set. It’s Go Time, Regina! After She commanded the toy to stand up and put his hands behind his head She saw him trying to inhale her scent. he was looking at her from her shoes to Her blouse. She took a step toward the toy. “Look at me. Today’s Lesson is…be careful what you wish for, toy.” And then….she took a deep breath and as she slowly exhaled she grabbed his manhood in her hand and pulled on it slowly. the toy winced in pain…then he gasped as She watched his toes curl. “Please teach this toy, Regina.” She breathed in, exhaled, then pulled again. The wince and gasp was longer this time, and a moan escaped his lips as well. As the toy stiffened then relaxed; She smiled. So far so good. Time to bind the toy’s balls with the knee highs.

Whewwwww…..Walk it off, Y/y’all! this girl is tackling a somewhat sensitive topic today. Stay with her…it has some information to expand Y/your knowledge and understanding of Kink. Breathe, G/gentlemen lol. The term CBT is the acronym for Cock and Ball Torture. The mere thought of CBT will give M/men either an instant erection or compel T/them to instinctively grab T/themselves, squirm and yell, “Fuck that!!!” while E/everyone else may be thinking, “Wow!” Well, if Y/you’re reading this and fall on either end of that spectrum or even somewhere in between, keep reading, F/fam lol. So, what’s the appeal of CBT, anyway? There are many reasons why people are drawn to it. It speaks to both Sadists and masochists and that’s partially due to the agony of the pain as well as the exhilaration from the agony. The fact that it is the most sensitive part of the body just makes playing around with it even more exciting. With such a wide range of tools available now, CBT can also be endured alone for the ultimate in sadomasochistic bliss.

Still here? Hang in there!

Confused/Curious about Cock and Ball Torture? A few things to remember…

CBT can free your inner masochist! The penis and surrounding area is full of sensitive nerve endings that are just begging to be played with. Time for some Scientific Stuff lol. Stimulating those nerve endings through CBT causes waves of endorphins (the body’s natural painkiller) to be released. The effect is similar to that of being under the influence and the result is an incredibly intense “natural high.” In some cases it can actually lead to an altered and euphoric state of consciousness.
Increased blood flow to the genitals causes them to become engorged. As a result, CBT is often processed as pleasure rather than pain. The body releases adrenaline and the genitals become further enlarged, greatly intensifying the experience. Normally so readily associated with pleasure, the cock and balls have now become a target for punishment and pain. This confuses the body and thus a new pleasure/pain association is discovered.
CBT can create another emotional connection with your partner. Not only is it extremely satisfying to please your playmate but the level of trust between you will become stronger.

Be Safe!!!

The biggest concern when it comes to CBT is circulation. Increased pressure means that there is a danger of cutting off circulation completely. It is extremely important to watch out for symptoms such as a loss in sensation, swelling or a loss of color. Common injuries as a result of CBT include abrasions, bruises and small cuts. In time these will heal, but it is a good idea to treat with an ice pack to reduce the swelling and apply some antiseptic cream to cuts to avoid infection. It’s quite normal to experience a dull and painful ache in the testicles after CBT, or as we like to call it “blue balls.” It might last for a prolonged period of time after your play has ended. If the pain persists or you notice any abnormalities including swelling or blood spots underneath the skin, please see a doctor as soon as possible. NOTE: There is another article by Matthias Black about Doctors and kink Y/y’all should check out if Y/you haven’t already.

Make sure you always play SAFE and stop if you’re unsure!

Some Do’s and Don’ts regarding CBT are…

DO Trim pubic hair for a clear view and to avoid snagging.

DO Alleviate pressure every 20-30 minutes to restore circulation fully.

DO Avoid genital bindings that cannot be easily untied/removed.

DO Keep ‘quick release’ tools like EMT scissors and cock ring cutters readily available.

DO Be gentle with piercings.

DO Stop immediately if you notice a loss of sensation, swelling, numbness or loss of colour

DO Discuss boundaries and a safe word beforehand.

DO Go slowly and gradually increase intensity while monitoring reactions.

DO Stop immediately if the pain starts to spread to other areas.

DO Avoid anything that will seriously wrench or twist the genitals.

DON’T Leave clamps on for long periods of time.

DON’T Leave CBT devices/weights on for prolonged periods or through the night.

DON’T Tie the balls to anything else because any sudden knee-jerk reaction could result in serious damage!

DON’T Bind the penis/scrotum too tightly – you don’t want to cut off circulation.

DON’T Insert anything into the urethra without adequate lubrication and sterilization.

DON’T Squeeze the penis too hard, it could damage the erectile tissue.

DON’T Use sharp, hard hits.

DON’T Let go of weights suddenly; lower them down gradually and gently.

Still here? It’s almost over so hang in there!

CBT Play often involves using weights, bondage, impact or the hands…a little flick anywhere in that area can cause a LOT of pain, agony and/or pleasure. As with anything else W/we do in O/our Thing, research, communication, preparation and safety are CRUCIAL!!! Cannot stress that enough!!! There are so many ways in which you can reach your CBT goals and most will be unique and specific to Y/you and Y/yours. So remember THIS…W/we must always DIG IN before W/we dive in, Y/y’all. And that means do more research than just watching CBT porn. Seriously.

Most importantly, take it easy. Process everything that happened individually and with each other. Enjoy some much needed healing time so that Y/you’re ready for a repeat performance in no time!

Thanks for hanging in there, Y/y’all! Hopefully it was worth it! And while it’s perfectly fine to not be a fan of CBT, it’s never okay to judge the ones who are.

Until next time, Y/y’all.

~His Duchess

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A Rush Of Excitement

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 03:28:00 +0000

As he locked the door behind him, she smiled. “You look beautiful, Regina. Love your outfit, Regina.” She chuckled. “Get undressed. NOW.” Sitting behind the large desk, She watched with pride as he began to take off his uniform. he was tall, strong, confident. And he was all Hers. A rush of excitement flowed throughout her entire body. Her smile grew into a mischievous grin. She stood up, walked toward him and shook Her finger in his face. “The boy is incredibly rude. Actions have consequences. Does he understand?” he gasps as She traced across his shoulder blades with Her fingers. “The boy understands, Regina.” She glanced behind her at the nameplate on his desk. “The boy isn’t an important soldier right now…the boy is a piece of flesh to be used any way I see fit.” As he dropped his underwear to the floor he said, “the boy understands, Regina.” She picked up the nameplate and placed it face down on the floor. As he stood naked, She circled and surveyed him. he held his head down, looking at the name plate. She whispered, “The boy knows what to do.” he raised his head but kept his eyes lowered. “the boy does, Regina.” he locked his fingers behind his head, looked down at the floor, took a deep breath, and waited. She placed a blindfold on him and then stood behind him…silently…for what seemed like an eternity. “The boy seems pretty happy right now. I don’t like that.” he listens as Her voice gets further away. “The boy understands, Regina.” he hears a clanking sound. The sound of Her bracelets as she moved? A belt buckle? Restraints? What was it? “What does the boy tell his soldiers? Ahh, yes…DROP!” he immediately drops to his knees, keeping his hands in position but slightly losing his balance. he focused on trying to remember each detail of her outfit. The form fitting skirt. The sheer blouse. The fishnet stockings. Those MAGNIFICENT heels. Even though he is cold, naked, blindfolded and kneeling, he was in HEAVEN. Yet he knew She had devilish things in store for him.

Okay, BREATHE, y’all! Lol. CFNM, the acronym for Clothed Female Naked/Nude Male is a kink for a clothed woman while a nearby male is entirely naked/nude and is often used as part of a Female led scene and/or dynamic. It is important to note that people of any gender identities or gender presentations can participate in CFNM. All that this kink requires is two people in two various states of dress. However, for the sake of simplicity and the name of the kink, this girl will go with the words that fit the acronym. Even the most unkinky folks can agree that there’s something inherently vulnerable about being naked in front of another person. To be naked in more ways than one. In CFNM, being naked and vulnerable, while another person is fully clothed and in charge, only reinforces the concept someone else having power over them.

The sheer simplicity of this kink feeds into people’s love for it as well. The kink is so clear that many people who are into it can pinpoint the exact moment they fell in love with it. Maybe it was their first girlfriend, daydreams about a Teacher/Librarian/other ladies they viewed as authoritative but were too nervous to ever undress them. As a result all of the sex was with him being the only one who ends up naked. Maybe it was someone she imagined being naked, vulnerable and at her mercy.

In addition to being vulnerable, a lot of male submissives/bottoms have said that the kink feels extremely sensual and intimate for them. In most cases where a woman is asking/telling them to get naked, they become nearly breathless in anticipation of the things that may take place in their immediate future. Just the stripping down in itself can become an amazingly kinky experience. Well, this girl assumes Y/y’all have figured out the basics by now. The acting female is fully clothed in whatever clothing works in the moment. The male will end up naked/nude. This is pretty much the basic set-up for any CFNM scene Y/you choose to explore.

Now, however the participants decide to shake things up from here is completely up to T/them. Using only clothing, the experience can be changed even further. Will the woman be wearing a powerful business outfit which will add to the Top/bottom/Dominant/submissive roles? Will the she be wearing lingerie – as a further sexual tease in a situation where the bottom is unable to hide his excitement and/or desire for her? Will the female dominant be wearing her comfortable, everyday clothes to further emphasize the point that she doesn’t think he’s worth dressing up for in a humiliation scene? Hmmm….the possibilities, Y/y’all!!!

You can mess around with the bottom’s “outfit” too. Sure, naked is the basic expectation of CFNM, but even CFNM allows more than just basic nudity! Are you into chastity? A chastity cage can further enforce who is in charge. What about outside of the clothing? Don’t forget that CFNM is usually used as an exciting “part” of a scene – not necessarily the scene itself. This kink can be mixed with any other kink(s) you want to do at the moment, with any aspect of kink Y/you had in mind.
Just plan the clothing accordingly, and Y/you could even turn Y/your regular Wednesday movie night into a light mixture of foreplay with CFNM involved.

Pssst…Please keep in mind that CFNM is not exclusive to those in defined roles on specific sides of the slash, Y/y’all.

Okey dokey…that’s it for now. Let your imagination run amok and keep it safe and sensational, Y’all! Until next time…

~ His Duchess

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Control and Release

Regina Charlisa — Thu, 07 Oct 2021 19:18:00 +0000

“Time’s up. Get out and get ready for it.” He smiled as He walked back out of the bathroom. she felt that familiar flutter of excitement. she was soaking in the tub as required but had no idea what happened next. she got up, dried herself off and prepared her skin for Impact, bondage and temperature action. she put on the T-shirt hanging on the door as it was the only clothing there. she knew it was placed there for her. she walked into the dark bedroom and looked around for Him. He was seated in the chair across from the bed. As she began to kneel, He snapped His fingers and pointed towards the bed behind her. He used the flashlight on His phone to show her what had been placed there for her. she froze, then looked back at Him, quizzically. “You know what this is.” she picked up the toy and sat on the edge of the bed. He turned on the lamp beside Him but directed the light towards her. It warmed her skin and heated her already flushed cheeks. “Ready?” she gripped the toy with one hand and reached for the lube with the other. “Yes, Sir.” He was cloaked in shadow…she could only make out His shape. He chuckled and said, “Begin.” she turned on the toy and began to touch herself with it, gently, cautiously. she felt the rush building. “More” He said. she pressed down harder. Omg it’s tingling now! “More.” she started to grind against the toy now. her eyes closed, her head back, suddenly she felt His hand on her throat. When did He get up??? “MORE” He whispered. she felt the heat now….the pressure building…her breathing became ragged, her moans, coming from deep in her throat, were struggling to escape because He was tightening His grip. “More!” The throbbing…the breathlessness…grinding…goosesbumps…and then…He snatched the toy away. “Not yet.” she crashed. she wanted to collapse on the bed. He released His grip on her throat; He denied her of His body heat as well. she cursed in her head but dared not say a word out loud. He handed her back the toy and said, “Again.” This went on for what seemed like an eternity. “Again. More. MORE. More! Not yet. Again.”
she was frustrated but excited at the same time because she knew that once He granted her release it would be GLORIOUS.

OKAY.. shake it off, y’all! What just happened? In a word: Edging. Edging means coming (hehe) super close to orgasm… and then stopping O/ourselves from release at the last minute. It. Is. Intense. It’s torturous. W/we know this. But learning how to Edge O/ourselves is a great skill to master when it comes to making O/our orgasms better.

While the word Edging is fairly new, the technique has actually been around since 1956 when it was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine by James H. Semans. He introduced Edging as the “stop-start method” to help folks last longer before reaching orgasm. Longer sex, better orgasms? Sounds like Edging is a beautiful thing!

So what exactly is the process of Edging? Think of Edging as if being juuuuuust about to jump out of an airplane but then, right before Y/you leap, Y/you stop. Basically, getting to the point of orgasm and BAM!- Y/you stop.

Again, why on earth would W/we even do this? Because when W/we’re able to master this repeatedly — edge, stop, edge, stop — W/we’re building up to have an earth shattering orgasm!!!!

Edging makes for a more satisfying orgasm for women, but also serves another purpose for men. As Mr. Semans points out, Edging for a man helps T/them avoid pre-ejaculating. It not only helps men last longer but also allows T/them to get in tune with T/their bodies just like women. And when men can control when and how T/they orgasm, T/they will be even more able to snatch souls with a satisfied smile on T/their faces! Keep in mind that Edging is an interesting and exciting exploration of O/our bodies, with or without a partner in pleasure.

Most of us can tell when W/we are about to blast off. But it is different for everyone. So before W/we start learning how to Edge, it’s important to know what it feels like when W/we’re heated up and ready to have an orgasm. It generally goes down like this:

O/our bodies will start to feel “amped up.” A racing heartbeat as well as a flushed appearance. Blood will rush to O/our genitals, causing the vagina to get wet and the scrotum to withdraw. At this point, everything in O/our bodies feels more intense. W/we’re ALMOST there!!! And when W/we Edge, this is where W/we should stop — just before orgasm. We feel that bliss. That release of nerves and muscles happens here, as the vagina lubricates even more and the penis ejaculates. This is the stage to avoid when Edging.

How do W/we Edge?

It’s widely recommended that before edging with a partner, W/we start practicing alone first. That way, W/we get to know O/our body’s rhythm better and can figure out exactly what “O/our Edge” feels like.
A few steps that may ease U/us into Edging:

Start with a peaceful and sensual environment. Minimize the ALL the outside noise to lessen distractions because the next step is impossible without doing this.
Listen to O/our bodies. How does it feel when W/we touch O/ourselves? In what ways do W/we like to be stimulated? How does O/our body respond? What subtle shifts are happening and when? These are good indicators of what to pay attention to when it comes to O/our state of arousal and how close W/we to orgasm.
Stop stimulation. When W/we feel like W/we’re about to orgasm, stop! After all…this is the whole point of Edging, remember?
Take a break and repeat.
CHECKMATE!!!!

Keep in mind that Edging has several benefits and doesn’t really pose any health-related threats to the body. However, it can cause- big word alert!- Epididymal Hypertension in some cases. This is when a person’s testicles feel soreness or aching caused by sexual stimulation that doesn’t end in an orgasm. It can also cause heaviness in the testes. But contrary to popular belief, Edging does NOT cause Erectile Dysfunction.

Edging together can be fun – and FRUSTRATING- AF! When O/our partner(s) know O/our bodies as well as W/we do and vice versa, shit gets REAL, Y/y’all. So pay attention. Study T/them. Edge in front of each other. Send videos, do it live, let the imagination go wild. And of course…COMMUNICATE!!! Bottom line…Edging is about control and release, right?

Okay, y’all…let’s go forth and get O/our Edge on!

~ His Duchess

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A Reminder

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 04:39:00 +0000

Okay… So this girl was halfway through writing an article, took a break and saw a beautiful post on Instagram so now…new topic! Anyway,the post was a snippet from a heavy Impact scene. The bottom was bent over a bench, hands bound, gagged and blindfolded. Some refer to this as a Sensory Play Trinity lol. The Top was striking and surveying them, checking in, at an appropriate distance while striking as well as having perfect form. It. Was. GLORIOUS. And then came the comments. Some were supportive, encouraging, respectful and kind. But the majority were, well…

*”If you’re going to film yourself, at least get ur nails done sis!”

*”Dude needs a gym membership!”

*”Looks like they’re in somebody’s living room!”

*”That chick needs more clothes on!”

*”I’d never have posted this, bruh”

*”50 shades of section 8”

Y/y’all…with all due respect…O/our Thing is the subject of curiosity, scorn, judgment, envy and disrespect by many who either don’t understand or have preconceptions about what BDSM “should look like.” Well, guess what…IT. ISN’T. PERFECT. EVER.

Every time W/we turn around folks ask for/demand/beg for/offer to buy/expect videos and pictures of scenes. To some, these are very intense, intimate, private moments where people are vulnerable, exposed and engaged, whether they enjoy being watched or not. They are not always staged. Even demonstrations are all of the things mentioned above. People are inviting others into their experiences during very special and intimate moments in their lives. So NO, boo boo…E/everyone may not have time and or money to get a full set, hot stone pedicure, order 25 bomb outfits online, get a fresh cut and brand new hairdo each time W/we do what W/we do. Some may not have beautifully decorated space or a dungeon available to U/us. Some may not have a film crew backing U/us up. So adjustments are required. Some of U/us make O/our own tools and furniture. Dynamics are often self-contained while others exist as part of a Communal and/or Familial system. And in both instances, W/we all have O/our own structure in place. So…W/we are not required to explain to random people online or even in person why W/we don’t look Vogue cover or Hollywood production ready at all times. Life is hectic enough without placing more on O/our plates for the sake of popularity and/or notoriety. Bottom line…if Y/you are not personally invested/involved in someone’s dynamic(s), your opinions about it are irrelevant AF. And that begs the question…if Y/your opinions don’t matter, why even bother to put them out there in the first place, fam?

this girl has news for Y/y’all…there is no unanimously recognized Rules Book that governs BDSM. However, there ARE several guides, books, videos, presentations, etc that are all created through someone’s perspective and experience. All of these are Gospel to some and balderdash to others depending on many factors that are unique to each of U/us. This is why there is often so much heated debate about various aspects of O/our Thing. In the end, most of U/us cling to what is relatable to U/us and discard the rest. We flock to those W/we feel connected to and keep moving. Buuuut as W/we evolve along the journey that often changes. But O/our Core Values don’t.

Speaking of Core Values…what are Y/yours? It is important that W/we know what they are because they are the driving force behind everything that makes U/us who W/we are. The answer to the “Why do things affect me that way?” question. Okay, back to BDSM.

“There is no spoon.” Often W/we find O/ourselves thinking that someone else’s role/dynamic isn’t real or correct because of what W/we believe to be true. W/we lose sight of the fact that O/our opinions can’t change BDSM for E/everyone else because W/we don’t have control over E/everyone else. W/we can only change O/ourselves and O/our perceptions of BDSM. So, follow tradition, be innovative, progressive, fearless; after all, O/our journey is personal and unique. So…as long as W/we all do whatever W/we do SAFELY, anything W/we can think of is possible.

Said ALL of that to say this…stop looking out the window and look in the mirror because THAT is where Y/your happiness is found, Y/y’all.

~ His Duchess

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Uh Oh!

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 04:35:00 +0000

“Is there something you want to tell me about?” she stopped cold and surveyed her surroundings. The whoosh of the ceiling fan was the only sound in the room. There was a chair positioned in the center of the room. A covered table was near the chair. A snap of His fingers jolted her back. she dropped to her knees, head bowed. Waiting. she felt a sudden rush of extreme heat on her back. she struggled not to flinch. And then…relief. His hand on her shoulder, steadying her. Then, she heard His footsteps receding. she felt alone. Focusing on the fan, the whooshing was oddly soothing to her. she allowed herself to relax. “Your posture is unacceptable. Fix it NOW or do you require guidance?” A deep breath. Regroup! “Thank You, Sir.” she straightened her back and squared her shoulders. “Perfection.” He grabbed her by the back of her neck and brought her to her feet. Trying to keep her eyes down she followed His lead. “Look. I want you to see this. Now SIT DOWN.” Looking around, she saw the restraints attached to the chair she was in. “Your ankles. Make it snug unless you want ME to do it for you.” she bend down and did as she was told. she wiggled her toes but her feet couldn’t move. No tingling so they were secure and snug but not too tight. He bent down and attempted to slip His finger in between the tie and her ankles. “Well done.” Next came her hands. He held her hand for a moment and locked eyes with her. she took stock of her situation. Tied to a chair, naked, heart pounding, cheeks flushed, seat chafing her skin when she moves, waiting to be gagged and blindfolded. He chuckled. “Nope. I want to look into your eyes. And you will be required to speak so no gag. This isn’t what you expect.” then it hits her. she realizes what’s about to happen. “Yessss….she gets it now.” He turns on the blinding lights on either side of her. “I ask the questions and you tell the truth or there will be consequences. Do you understand?” Suddenly she is quite uncomfortable. But she feels that familiar rush. And then…the slap. HARD. Across her thigh. God, it stings!!!! Burning, throbbing. Eyes welling with tears. she struggles to speak without screaming. “Y-y-y-yes Sir, this slave understands, Sir.” He rubs a cool cloth across the spot He just struck. “Now…let’s begin. First question. What… are…you?”

Let’s unpack this a bit, shall W/we?

What this girl just shared is the beginning of an Interrogation Scene. This is a form of BDSM Roleplay where one person attemts to extract information while torturing, teasing and/or punishing the other. This one is particularly popular regardless of the gender of the Tops and bottoms involved because the logistics of the scene are basically the same. The Interrogator uses threats, humiliation and physical pain to extract whatever information they believe the “subject” possesses. The game is over when the they have been “broken” and divulge “the secret.” The length and severity of the scene will vary according to the participants.

It’s important to note that this scene works well for people who already have an established BDSM relationship with their partner(s) as well as those building trust and have already negotiated limits and safewords between them. Interrogation, like many other types of scenes, incorporates several different aspects of BDSM which are discussed and agreed upon between the participants in advance. If any aspect is a problem for anyone involved, the good thing is that every part of the scene from start to finish can be adjusted to accommodate the participants.

Some things you might use:

*Sturdy chair – Preferably one without arms so that the sub’s legs are not prevented from opening. A simple wooden one rather than comfortable modern one, for added effect.

*Wrist and Ankle restraints – Y/you could use whater type Y/ou want, but for this scene they definitely need to withstand escape attempts and squirming lol.

*Connectors – If necessary, something to attach the restraints to the chair.

*Long leather strap – highly recommended, to secure the torso to the back of the chair. Prevents wriggling around.

*Spotlights/lamps

*Table/Tray for all the items needed.

*Nice torture toy – something painful but not too horrible. E.g. a Neon Wand, or TENS unit on a low setting

*Mean torture toy – something a bit more serious. E.g. a Ta-zapper, or TENS on a higher setting

*Pleasure toy (optional) – e.g. Hitachi, Fleshlight, etc.

*Impact/Sensation Implements – Tickling is HIGHLY effective if they can handle it and impact adds razzle dazzle as well.

*Any other basic items needed for a scene.

Y/you can add the extra element of Cop/prisoner or other Top/bottom Characters to make it even more imaginative. This must be negotiated and planned out This type of scene is also used often for CNC. And always, always ALWAYS remember to go wild, but also be safe and enjoy!

~His Duchess

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An Unexpected Lesson

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 04:32:00 +0000

“Wake up. NOW, bitch.” He was shaking her foot. she was startled as she opened her eyes and tried to focus. And right at that moment, He dragged her out of the bed by her ankles. she tried to brace her head; then realized it probably looked like she was struggling. Not good. Once she was completely on the floor she just went limp and closed her eyes. she felt the carpet scratching her. her skin burning, itching, and stinging. And then, the coldness of a tile floor. The bathroom. He let go of her. “Get up.” she opened her her eyes but averted his gaze as she reached out for something to pull herself up. “Hurry up!” Finally she was standing, eyes cast down, and hands behind her back. Cold, naked, and confused. He turned on the shower and shoved her in. The cold water was bracing. she whimpered in agony. His hand was squeezing the back of her neck to keep her in place. she was trying to process everything. What time is it? Have I done something wrong? Why is this happening??? “I know your wheels are turning. STOP.” As He released His grip, she braced herself and prepared for impact.

THWACK! After the shock of the first strike there was the sting and the heat. Then came the chills and goosebumps. The RUSH. “You know what this is now, right? Now, COUNT.” she raised her arms and placed her palms on the wall, braced herself and said, “Yes Sir.” she tried to steady herself, prepare for it. Why is He not doing anyth- “THWACK! THWACK! THWACK!” Tears are flowing now. Legs are weak. Everything going black.

One…Two…Three…Simple. this girl knows how to do it. It’s as natural as breathing. she can count money, minutes, cookies, and everything. But when He says, “Count” her heart starts to flutter. The blood starts coursing through O/our bodies at such a rapid pace that both of U/us can feel it.

this girl’s entire body is trembling now. she hears a loud clank outside the shower. Not sure what it was. she is wrapped in a towel as He stood quietly in front of her. she averted His gaze but desperately wanted to see the look on His face as she wondered if she made Him proud. But she knew better than to try. “Still inside yourself, I see” He says. she suddenly felt cold all over except for her face and loins; they were warm. “Focus. Use the towel.” she dried herself off as quickly and thoroughly as possible, then waited.

NOW, imagine THIS…there you are, standing, bent over, breathlessly waiting, trying to focus on the sounds in the room. A whir. A hum. A buzz. The pounding of your heart begins to drown it all out. And then you hear it. “Count.” You take a deep breath. “THWACK!” The sensation; a sting! Heat and pain radiates from the point of impact throughout your body! Tingling! And now your mouth waters; tears fill your eyes. And you remember…Count! The hands providing the stings and thuds pause to enjoy the splendor of this moment. They have brought the strong, capable person beneath them to the point of surrender and release. The immense pride. The satisfaction. Then…They go back on mission and tell you, “Count.” THWACK! Time to let it all go. THWACK! The crazy day Y/you had. THWACK! The thoughts W/we have but dare not speak of. THWACK! The feelings of not being good enough. THWACK! Caring about what others think. THWACK! Worrying, wondering, waiting. THWACK! Thinking about how grateful Y/you are to be in this moment with T/them. Let. It. All. Go. THWACK!

Counting strikes during Impact can create a entirely different set of reactions from both the giver and receiver. It serves a few purposes for U/us, actually. It keeps this girl focused on the moment. Gives her a sense of accomplishment about what she is enduring. For Him, it lets Him know that she is present and connected to Him during the experience. He can also observe her voice for signs of distress and also know if she is drifting into subspace. For U/us, it can be yet another intimate act during an intense moment. Bottom Line…W/we feel ALL of it.

~His Duchess

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Enema Play 101

Regina Charlisa — Wed, 08 Sep 2021 04:24:00 +0000

Heyyy, y’all! Erotic Enemas are enjoyed by a wide number of the population. Dr. Joanne Denko coined the work Klismaphilia to describe the practices of people who enjoyed the use of enemas as a sexual stimulant. Enema Play has a strong appeal to those who enjoy anal stimulation. For those who are into Dominance and submission, the act of giving/receiving an enema is a satisfying demonstration of those roles during a scene. Being ordered to hold your bowels while your stomach is churning and cramping can be quite erotic and emotional as well.
When engaging in Enema Play, planning ahead will make the experience enjoyable and sexy. Physical discomfort, fumbling around looking for equipment, and cleaning up unintended spills is a roadblock to pleasure (unless these events are part of the scene you planned, in which case it’s hot). Set up the scenario that you wish with whatever you require. Create a comfortable place to lie down once the enema has been administered. Some people rest on a couple of beach towels on the bed or floor. No matter where you decide to hold your enema, be sure you have planned ahead as to where you will evacuate your bowels once you decide or have been given permission to do so. After the location of the scene has been planned, make sure you have a clean enema bag, lubricant to ease insertion of the nozzle, a clamp or hemostats, plain tap water or enema solution for more advanced players, bleach for cleanup afterwards, and you might also want some rubber gloves. If the water is too hot, you could be burned and water that is too cold may cause cramping. You will need to hang the enema bag approximately 2 feet above your bottom. Get into a comfortable position to receive your enema. You might try lying on your left side with your left leg straight and your right leg bent with your knee against your chest. Another good position for enema play is doggie style, with your bottom in the air and your chest on the floor. You may also want to lie on your back with your knees against your chest and your feet splayed apart to allow clear access to your anus. Many Enema Play enthusiasts say that the over the knee position is their favorite pose for enema administration. This position can place a lot of pressure on your stomach so you may want to have your stomach between your partner’s knees.

Gently insert a well lubricated nozzle into a relaxed and well lubricated ass. Go slowly, and relax and exhale as the nozzle enters the sphincter muscle. When the nozzle is in place, remove the clamp from the hose and allow the enema to flow into you. If you feel the need to void, or have cramping you should stop for a few seconds and relax. An enema can take up to fifteen minutes. Most enemas are about 2 quarts, you may take less than that; there is no regulation enema rulebook.

When it is time to evacuate your bowels, move to the toilet with the nozzle still inside you. Do not remove it until you are in position to void. While moving to the toilet, the enema bag should be held slightly higher than the waist. If it is held too high, it increases pressure, if it goes below the waist it can result in back flow.

Enema Play can be a very erotic experience when planned and done correctly. As with any of the edgier activities, take your time, plan ahead, and communicate with your partner. Enema Play is definitely something that you cannot do if you cannot bring yourself to say it.

~ His Duchess

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