Thoughts Regarding Service
Service is an important part of most D/s and M/s relationships. The term “service” can be applied to both sides of these relationships, but this discussion will be limited to the more obvious service rendered by the bottom, submissive or slave. Disclaimer: I will also be using the terms Master and slave as well as…
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Finding a Mentor
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…
Becoming the New Norm
Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature. For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….
Masturbation
I mean, May is National Masturbation Month after all, right? Okay then…First, the basics. Masturbation is when an individual stimulates their genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. Masturbation is common among men and women of all ages and plays a role in one’s healthy sexual development. People masturbate for…
What Makes a “Good” Dominant
Anyone who talks about BDSM often spends a lot of time talking about the posers, wannabes, and fake Dominants…Myself included. Part of it is out of necessity. It seems as if every single day, I come across someone who dropped every bit of common sense in the name of submission. These are the people need…
Using Gender in BDSM Play
*Special thanks to Blazing Unicorn (They/Them) and their bottom, Panda Scare (They/Them) for assistance and clarification with this article. Girls wear pink, boys wear blue…Period. After all, that is it and nothing more. Unfortunately, this is the archaic and erroneous mindset some people have when it comes down to what gender is and should be even…
How to Tell Your Doctor That You Are Kinky
Face it, unless you are Wilbur Force, the majorly hyperactive masochist played by actor Jack Nicolson (His breakout role) in the original Little Shop of Horrors film (1960), few and far between are those who enjoy going to the doctors. Even if you have the nicest, most inclusive doctor on the planet, most people dread…
Daddies and Mommies and Littles, Oh My!
Ever hear someone call their partner “Daddy” or “Mommy” and feel a little grossed out? Does the idea of an adult identifying as a “little” make you wonder what is wrong with them or wonder what that even means? Granted…While there are some sick people in the world, the Mommy/Daddy/little dynamic in D/s relationships has…
BDSM D/s Contracts…Are They Worth It?
A constant feature of any media portrayal of power exchange relationships and a common centerpiece of Master/slave fantasies: the BDSM D/s contract. While not legally binding, it does outline the entire relationship.It is typically something the D-Type crafts in private, and gives to their s-type(s) to sign. The contract outlines all of the things that…
Identifying as kinky, or just being interested in learning more about kink, is an entirely personal and individualized experience. However, Do not think that to belong to kink groups or to visit kinky spaces you must qualify as “Kinky Enough”. Whether you have twenty years of kink experience or just decided twenty minutes ago that…