Starting and Stopping
ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike many relationships in many ways. The old phrase “knowledge is power” holds true for anyone who is considering getting into a BDSM relationship and signing a contract. Getting that knowledge…
Regina Charlisa
Releasing the Inner Animal
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing…
Matthias Black
A Constant Adventure
Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay GREAT! But will Y/you research it first? Find out if it is physically/mentally/emotionally/ financially possible to incorporate into Y/your dynamic(s)? Y/you know all the folks that saw “The Movies” that…
Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene
Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often…
Location, Location,LOCATION!!!
Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life…
Respectful Voyeurism
As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get…
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Castar Daemon
Let’s Go to a Play Party
What is a Play Party? A Play Party is a social gathering of people with an interest in kink or BDSM that usually happens in a more private setting. Unlike Munches, the gathering will typically have kink activities going on. This may include everything from instructional guides to full-on scenes. Some Play Parties will have…
SmutHustler
Let’s Talk About Prostate Massages
Some refer to the prostate as the male g-spot, and massaging it just right can blow the mind of about any guy. The prostate gland produces the majority of a man’s ejaculation fluid. The massaging of the prostate gland can have a significant impact on the sensation of a man’s orgasm; creating a longer, deeper…
kinky smurf
Squirt Can Happen
Female ejaculation, an elusive notion for some, squirt is something most have never experienced. It’s true that some women blow like Old Faithful but there are others, like myself, that felt this feat was possibly unattainable. Turns out, it really wasn’t, we just needed to get a little technical. Prep First: Make sure you have…